Don’t forget we have to wake up Green Day tomorrow.
Ok just a reminder to everyone: If you’re planning on tweeting billie joe armstrong “wake up” or something tomorrow, DON’T. The song is about his father’s death and so it’s really personal and treating it like a joke isn’t the right thing to do. Plus he’s asked so many times for people to stop and no one listens so yeah. Please don’t do that.
i dont get offended at white people jokes even though im white because:
- i can recognize white people as a whole have systemically oppressed POC in america, which is where i live
- most people when they make white people jokes only mean the shitty white people and i am not a shitty white person
- im not a pissbaby
my white friends that have reblogged this give me life
4. sometimes i am a shitty white person and the jokes remind me to FUCKIN STOP
The thing that kills me about “Ur So Gay” is that Katy isn’t singing about a boyfriend who actually turned out to be gay. She’s using “gay” as an insult, because the guy was effeminate, not conforming to her expected gender roles. She shames him for being thin and wearing makeup.
In the opening line of the song she says he should kill himself.
But, you know, baby you’re a firework or whatever.
(Source: somedayinjakarta, via level-20-eevee)
If I’ve learnt anything from my contact with the bdsm community, the poly community, the geek community and the atheist community is that any social group who claims to “not to be like other groups” and to be”accepting and safe for all” is going to spend a lot of energy hiding the predators within the community and silencing abuse survivors.
People thinking they know how the Doctor should act just based on how nine and ten act
sometimes i just get so pissed off at the idea that there are people out there that think that I, as a bisexual person, cannot find trans* bodies attractive. as if somehow by being bisexual i must be ascribing to heternormative ideas of what makes a man and what makes a woman, because clearly i am ascribing to it in every other way because apparently only cis people can be bisexual there are no trans bisexuals anywhere ever nope nope
It’s Saturday - the last day of Bi Visibility Week, where we reclaim the day to bi women’s issues from the original (shitty) choice of allies as daily theme.
Disclaimer: for anyone who thinks sapphobia is an inappropriate word because “Sappho wasn’t bisexual” go and read this and get out of my post kthx.
[TW: discussion of sexual violence, rape culture, slut shaming, suicidality, and other forms of oppression against bi women]
Sapphobia is a new word coined just a few months ago by bi tumblr blogger mercurialvixen describing misogyny aimed against bisexual women. A new word for an existing concept, sapphobia helps us discuss and define bi women’s particular experience of biphobia, as separate from bi people of other genders, as well as from women of other sexual identities.
Sapphobia happens when biphobia and misogyny intersect. It happens when the media presents bi women as particularly exciting sex toys, existing solely for the viewing and pleasure of cishet men. It happens when bi women are objectified and have their sexual autonomy denied because of their bisexuality. Sapphobia happens when bi women are considered as “privileged” over bi men because of their “increased visibility”, even as this objectifying, fetishizing visibility causes violence against them.
Sapphobia happens when bi women are constantly presumed as being available and willing for sex for cishet men, and it happens when cishet men feel entitled for sex with bi women. It happens when bi women are asked “Can I join?” when they display their bisexuality publicly. It happens when they get asked for threesomes whenever their bisexuality becomes known. Sapphobia happens when people don’t even bother to ask, but simply assume that it’s okay and then do it. It happens when bi women need to lie and say that they’re lesbian in order to avoid sexual violence.
Sapphobia happens when terms like “barsexual” and “party bisexual” are used to slut shame bisexual and bi-curious women. It happens when women say: “not all bisexuals are like that”. It happens when bi women who kiss each other in public are accused of causing sexual violence against other bi and queer women, rather than the men who perpetuate this violence.
Sapphobia is a reality in which almost 50% of bi women are rape survivors, and 75% are survivors of sexual assault.
Sapphobia happens when bisexual rape and sexual violence survivors are accused of their own trauma because “they had it coming”. It happens when they are silenced from speaking about their traumatic experiences or naming them as biphobic. It happens when sapphobic sexual violence is subsumed under lesbophobia but “being attracted to men” is still considered a privilege. Sapphobia happens when bi women are told there’s no difference between their experience and that of lesbians and that “lesbophobia” covers them as well, but are then shouted down for using “lesbian” terms. Sapphobia happens when bi women’s existence and contributions to queer women’s culture are erased, silenced and denied.
Sapphobia is slurs like “bihet”, “breeder”, “bislut" or "dickworshipper" and the belief that what defines bi women is their relation to cishet men. Sapphobia is the presumption that bi women are bisexual for the sake of cishet men. It’s the presumption that bi women are actually straight because apparently cishet men are so superior that no bi woman can withstand them. It’s the presumption that all bi women are even into cishet men at all.
Sapphobia is a reality in which 45% of bisexual women have considered or attempted suicide. It’s a reality in which bi women have the lowest levels of social support, and the highest rates of depression and anxiety. It’s when bisexual women suffer from poorer general health than any other sexual identity group, and are far more likely to be in poverty. (Source #1, source #2).
Sapphobia is a reality where, over a century after the word “bisexuality” was invented, no word for sapphobia existed until just a few months ago.
Now that it’s here, we can understand it better. Learn it, use it, and utilize it to break heteropatriarchy.
I’d call myself a fan of Emma Watson. I like her. I always have. I’m a Harry Potter fan (despite its issues with gender inequality), and I’ve liked her a lot in other stuff, too. I still like her. I also know that she means well in her feminist work, and that her intentions at the UN were great. Cool. Excellent. None of that is the issue here.
In her speech to the UN, Ms. Watson said:
"I’ve seen men made fragile and insecure by a distorted sense of what constitutes male success. Men don’t have the benefit of equality, either.
We don’t often talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that they are and that when they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence.”
Ms. Watson delivered is problematic in many ways.
This message is flawed and unfortunate, as well. Telling men that they should care about gender inequality because of how much it hurts them, centralizes men and their well-being in a movement built by women for our survival in a world that degrades and dehumanizes us daily. This is problematic for the same reason telling white people that they should end racism because racism “holds us all back as a society, so eradicating it will help you, too,” is problematic.
Firstly, because even if that’s true, it does nothing to create solidarity. I have never met a white person who decided to take on anti-racism work because of the negative effects of racism on white people. Literally, never. And I don’t think I’ve ever met a man who genuinely supports feminist ideals because of the ways they benefit men first. If I did know people like this, I wouldn’t like them. I’d question why the often brutal oppression of people of color and women and especially women of color wasn’t enough to get them interested, but having an epiphany about the ways men and/or white people are kinda also hurt by these constructs because “something something society and also men should be able to cry, too” made them jump right on board.
Secondly, because it ignores just how much men do benefit from gender inequality. (They really do, Emma!
The underlying message here is that women deserve equity and equality because of our relationships to men. Continuing to re-enforce the idea that men should respect women and fight for women’s equality because mother/sister/daughter/whatever perpetuates the idea that women don’t already deserve those things based solely on our status as human beings. It encourages men to think of women always and only in relation to themselves, as if our pseudo-humanity is only an after-thought of men’s real humanity. The truth is that women are whole, complete people, regardless of our status in the lives of men. This is what men should hear, over and over again. This is what everyone should hear, every day.