Some ways in which gay and lesbian people benefit from monosexism


First - some background:

  • I’ve been seeing more and more people on tumblr arguing that monosexism can’t exist because gay and lesbian people don’t benefit from the oppression of bi people
  • This is a rebuttal of this argument
  • However, monosexism isn’t about gay and lesbian people
  • Seriously, read the links
  • No, SRSLY
  • Pulling the discussion that way DERAILS IT YET AGAIN and draws attention away from the real issue - centering it around gay and lesbian people when it’s supposed to be about bi people and our oppression
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  • I’m posting this anyway because JFC already

Now, some statistical facts (sources are linked):

Social benefits (all elaborated in my book please just read it if you want to know more, I promise it’s all in there):

  • Bisexual erasure stabilizes the heterosexual/homosexual binary. Acknowledging that it exists would insinuate that sexuality is changeable, making it impossible to argue that gay people were “born this way”. So monosexism makes it easier to legitimize homosexuality.
  • Bisexual erasure makes it possible to create (usually binary, cissexist) gender-segregated gay and lesbian environments. Because bisexual people always carry the “threat” of being with “other genders” and then “bringing them into the community”. So monosexism makes it easier to organize and maintain gay and lesbian communities.
  • Bisexual erasure makes it possible for gay and lesbian people to use respectability politics with regards to sex. Because bi men are viewed as closeted men who sneak out to have unsafe anonymous sex behind their wives’ backs, and because bi women are viewed as sluts who make lesbians look bad because they’re “sexually available to men”. So monosexism makes it easier for gay and lesbian people to appear sexually “moral”.
  • These are all points made by gay scholar Kenji Yoshino (and elaborated by me in my book). Go read his article.

Material benefits (all elaborated in my book please just read it if you want to know more, I promise it’s all in there):

  • Gay and lesbian people benefit from the work that bi people put in promoting and being active in queer movements/communities without having to credit them or give anything back to them.
  • Because bi people are excluded from leadership in these movements/communities, gay and lesbian people are the leaders and decision makers. That means they control communities’ agenda, money and resources.
  • Since internalized monosexism often makes bi people believe that bisexuality isn’t important enough to organize around, many contribute most of their activist time and energy to promoting gay and lesbian issues - again meaning queer movements benefit from the work of bi people at the expense of bi people and movements.
  • And of course there’s the part where (as stated above) almost all LGBT money goes to the GGGG part of it, and that bisexual people actually earn less money than gay and lesbian people.
  • These are points made by bisexual scholar and activist Miguel Obradors (and elaborated by me in my book). Go read his article.

And then there are other side privileges…

Then combine all this with the fact that bi people are DISPROPORTIONATELY WOMEN, PEOPLE OF COLOR AND TRANS PEOPLE. Then do the math.

Want to know more? Follow the goddamn links.

Now -


[Image: Samuel L. Jackson from the movie Pulp Fiction aiming a gun towards the camera looking angry (Say What Again meme). Top text: “SAY MONOSEXISM DOESN’T EXIST”. Bottom text: “ONE MORE TIME”]

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"Bisexual" was a term applied to all of us, whatever our non-monosexual attraction was, and we took it, and have worked to make it our own for decades.  To any bisexual organization or activist it means any kind of attraction to people of more than one gender.

I think people who are strictly attracted to cis men and cis women who refuse to accept that “bisexual” could mean anything other than that, should have another name, an addendum.   “Binarysexual,” maybe?

I got a word for them: cissexist


LOL. Wouldn’t that suggest that they’re into cissexist people, though?

Like I’m bisexual because I’m into bi people :D

I’m gonna go at it Dan Savage style and say cissexist people should just date each other and stay away from the rest of us!



Anonymous asked,

“i recently argued with someone about multisexual representation and not calling same-gender relationships inherently gay/lesbian relationships when characters have expressed attraction to multiple genders, and they said "why can't girls just be lesbians? why can't people just be pure gay?" and. i know that's wrong because characters with same-gender attraction ARE typically said to have "really been gay". but now i'm afraid defending bi characters is denying representation to gay people somehow?”


no. gay and lesbian people have their own characters. in fact, they have a lot more characters than bisexuals do. (still not enough, but more). the real question is why can’t people ever be bisexual? even when they’re shown having relationships with people of multiple genders they’re ‘confused’ or they were ‘experimenting’ or ‘they don’t like labels’ and that’s some absolute shit.

and “pure gay” like omfg take that garbage to the trashcan where it belongs.


“When you’re at the pool lounging on a beach chair and some little kids are running and the lifeguard screams out “no running” do you respond “excuse me, not all of us are running”? No, you don’t. The lifeguard didn’t have to specifically state who they were talking to because you’re intelligent enough to comprehend that the comment wasn’t being directed at you.”

Found a quote that shuts down that “not all men” argument pretty well. (via mykicks)

AHaha. haaaa. hh.

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If you define liberation as being able to do the things your oppressors do without barriers, you are seeking power, not freedom.

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Not only is the term sexism cissexist but it also implies that it effects men. 

never really thought about it like that. that’s an impressive revelation

Yeah this is why I switched to just calling and tagging it misogyny, since it identifies who ultimately benefits from patriarchy (ie men, cis and trans) and who is primarily targeted and feels the full brunt of the hatred (ie women, cis and trans). It effectively kicks out cissexism, twef-dom and the loopholes for men to distance themselves from accountability and acknowledging they benefit from this system with just a slight change in vocabulary. 10/10 would recommend.



People are being super considerate to not label anyone as ‘queer’ against their will, but if a bisexual person asks for their relationships to please not being labeled as ‘gay’ or ‘straight’, it is somehow ridiculous and too much to ask for.

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Anonymous asked,

“I'M SO FRUSTRATED this person keeps debating the shooting with me and keeps bringing up Mike Brown's "history." This person believes that he charged at Wilson, and I don't know how to refute that specific claim... btw-thank you so much for this blog♡”



1. All eyewitnesses agree that Mike Brown did not charge at Darren Wilson:

2. Bring up Darren Wilson’s history:

Bonus info:

Reminder: you cannot convince people who do not want to be convinced…some people do not want to be convinced racism exists (unless ofc it’s “reverse racism”) because honestly acknowledging systemic anti-Blackness in a zero-sum game world makes them less innocent and less meritorious, and some people simply won’t ever be convinced because they’ve been drinking White supremacy koolaid their entire lives and are desperate to protect that privilege even if it means engaging in hegemony, and still others will engage in arguments about race not because they don’t understand, but for no other reason than to have an excuse to spew their hatred under the guise of playing “devil’s advocate” or “honest debate

And some people are just racist

Bottom line: Mike Brown was unarmed and was not a threat. Period. No White person in America would stand for Black cops shooting so many unarmed White teens with no immediate arrests and prosecutions

Darren Wilson needs to be arrested for murder and prosecuted immediately




Feminists: Abolish gender roles! Girls can like masculine things and boys can like feminine things!

*a group of men unashamedly loves a cartoon made for little girls*

Feminists: DISGUSTING youre invading a space that doesnt belong to you and SOILING IT with your MASCULINITY you fedora wearing neckbeards!

If you still think feminist dislike bronies simply because they’re males, you have a shit-ton of learning to do

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Normalize women with penises

Normalize men with vaginas

Normalize intersex people

Normalize singular neutral pronouns

Normalize diversity and crush stereotypes

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