…you probably don’t know how it is used or its history.
I know a lot of people think it just means straight people and it’s a harmless jab at the privileged but it is not.
It is a biphobic, cissexist, racist and generally awful term.
As you can see “breeders” was chanted at bisexuals during London Pride this year and this is not an isolated incident, this is a regular experience at Pride around the world for many bisexuals. It is not only equating them as straight people (since this insult is used against straight people too) but also hypersexualises them for being “good breeders”, there’s the biphobia.
As the comic demonstrates this is especially hard for people who for whatever reason cannot have children, having problems “breeding”, this includes people who have misscarried, people who have recovered from illnesses where their reproductive parts have had to be removed, trans people who have undergone gender ressignment surgery and intersex people. It is essentially stripping people down to their reproductive capabilities and genitals, there’s your cissexism.
The word also has a very racist history, during the slave era “breeder” was often used to refer to black women who were designated for breeding new slaves and even now “welfare breeder” is used as a derogatory term to refer to, primarily, black single mothers. When this word is aimed at poc, especially black and latina women, it brings up a reminder of racism and being stripped of their autonomy to become livestock, there’s your racism.
It can also be very misogynistic when it is aimed at women since reducing women to reproductive value in general is a core value of misogyny.
Seriously don’t use this word, it sucks, it hurts people, let it die.
“It's not just about lesbians getting more respect. Its about how LGBT orgs are ALWAYS lead by L&Gs (with an occasional T) but the only national organization to ever have a bi president is BiNet. It's about how 0% of LGBT grants have gone to bisexual causes for years in a row. It's about how NO national LGBT rights group has a SINGLE bisexual board member. It's about how national groups like GLAAD only put up correct definitions of bisexual this week. It's structural monosexism not hurt feelings”
Yes, this. Thank you anon for this info and addition to the discussion. But yeah. I mean it’s the fact that I didn’t even know GLAAD had changed their definition.
It’s the fact that LGBT means LG. And that’s outside the community and within it.
Thank you for this post. I want people to remember that it is structural because I keep seeing things on tumblr about monosexism just about “people being mean” or “hurt feelings”.
Like Piper Kerman does say she is an ex-lesbian too but it makes all the difference with her labeling herself as bi. There is a vast canyon of difference between “I’m an ex-lesbian, I’m married to a man now” and “I identified as lesbian but now I know I am bisexual, I’m an ex-lesbian”, the way people were quoting her you think she she went from gay to straight.
Wow, never thought of it that way before! But it makes sense, because even if I’m not gay I’m still ex-straight when I’m bi.
I might start calling myself ex-straight just to see how people react, I mean technically all of us apart from heterosexuals are ex-straight because it’s an identity forced on us from birth with no opt out. I could call it “my straight phase”, I love it.
It’s important to understand that being a monosexual is not equivalent to being monosexist, the same way that being a heterosexual is not equivalent to being heterosexist.
"Monosexism" does not lump all gay/lesbian and straight people together… just the shitty ones.
“The whole having to label relationships as hetero or homosexual does kind of remind me of how people will accuse you of choosing a side once you're in a relationship. "Oh, you're in a hetero relationship? You must be a heterosexual." No, I am constantly bisexual, my attraction does not change simply because I'm committed to someone.”
I’m convinced that a lot of this profiling is rooted in the idea that bisexuality does not exist or is temporary, whereas gay and straight relationships are the only catagories that ultimately prove your sexuality, which is why people scoff at the idea of labeling a relationship bisexual since such a thing does not exist apparently.
There’s a bail and legal fund for protesters arrested in Ferguson set up here, fyi
reblog this. do it.
reblogging this info again because with so many people being arrested rn it’s super important. Money for bail, fines, and legal representation for people who are being targeted by police in Ferguson right now is going to be so, so vital.
THIS ISNT THE RIGHT LINK
THIS FUND HAD TO BE CLOSED FOR TAX BULLSHIT REASONS
THIS IS THE NEW FUND
PLEASE DONATE TO IT INSTEAD
because a lot of people dont seem to get this:
- golems are from jewish folklore. dont treat them like a generic fantasy creature, thats appropriative
- kabbalah is a specifically jewish religious tradition. dont practice it if youre not jewish and dont use kabbalah symbolism as generic occult stuff, thats appropriative
- for the record if it has hebrew on it and it doesnt have anything to do with judaism its probably appropriative
- dont wear a magen david if youre not jewish, its used as a symbol for judaism so wearing it if youre a gentile is appropriative
- while im at it heres a rundown of some terms you should know
- goy: hebrew and yiddish for non-jewish person, it literally translates as “nation.” the plural form is goyim. goy is not a slur.
- gentile: english for non-jewish person
- anti-semitism: you probably know what this means but i just want to point out that the word anti-semitism was NOT coined by jews but by a german anti-semite who wanted a more scientific-sounding alternative to “judenhass,” which literally translates to “jew-hatred” so please shut up about how arabs are also semites. we know.
- if you’re not jewish you should also avoid using the word “jew” since many jewish people are uncomfortable with it (though i personally am fine with it). use “jewish person” instead if youre a gentile
please reblog this if you’re not jewish, i almost never see gentiles acknowledging cultural appropriation of judaism and anti-semitism on tumblr, even among people who otherwise pay close attention to such issues